Not everyone is your friend
My social media reality check.
Dear Cafecito,
As a millennial woman who has been active on social media platforms for years, I've learned a valuable lesson: not everyone is your friend. It’s easy to get caught up in the idea that everyone who follows you on social media platforms are genuinely interested in your life and daily activities. But the truth is, many people are just lurking, watching you from the sidelines without ever engaging with your content.
My Own Personal Experience
I’ve experienced this firsthand on my personal social media accounts: Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok. I remember posting updates on our small business, sharing photos of my cats, talking about my favorite planners, or just mentioning a few accomplishments here and there, but I would rarely get any likes, comments, or messages from certain “amigas.” However, I would consistently see them viewing my stories on Instagram or watching my videos on TikTok. It was like they were silently stalking me, without ever showing any real interest in my life.
A New Social Media Approach
This experience encouraged me to distance myself from my social media platforms by deleting my TikTok accounts and deactivating my Instagram accounts. This was a direct result of my experience in December of 2024, which emphasized the need for me to re-evaluate my social media approach. I do miss it sometimes, but I’ve actually considered creating new social media accounts for my personal and small business and starting fresh. Why not, right? My goal in 2025 is to connect with people who genuinely share my interests as well. This time, I don’t plan on adding the people who I grew apart from and did not engage with my content in the past.
Not everyone is your friend, and that’s okay. I’ve actually been journaling on this topic and have considered turning it into a book as well. We shall see! Alright. So, what have I learned? That it is better to have a smaller, engaged community of people than to have a large following of lurkers who don’t contribute to the conversation. By being more intentional about who I connect with on social media, I’m hoping to build a more meaningful and supportive community, one that will help me grow personally and professionally.
Social Media Words of Wisdom
If you’re feeling similarly frustrated with your social media experience, I encourage you to take a step back and reevaluate your approach. Who are you trying to connect with? Are they actually engaged with your content? It might be time to start fresh and seek out new meaningful connections who share your passion and interests.
Thank you for stopping by, and have a wonderful week! ♡
Sincerely,
Clari♡ from The Cafecito Diaries ☕️📝 | 💌 hello@claribotello.com
Disclaimer: This post is provided for educational and informational purposes only. This post does not constitute providing medical advice or professional services.